Crafting the perfect wedding invitation wording requires a combination of care, consideration and etiquette awareness. Although the task may initially seem somewhat daunting, it doesn’t have to be difficult to navigate the wedding etiquette rules so that you end up with personalised invites that delight and impress your family and friends.

Our practical tips will save you time and stress, and inspire you to create elegant and stylish wedding invites that are beautifully worded…

Focus On The Vibe

The wording of the invites to your dream wedding should reflect the overall vibe of your special day. Whether you’re planning to get hitched in a formal manner or prefer to say “I do” in a more casual and relaxed way, you’ll need to let your guests know what wedding mood you’re setting.

Although the traditional etiquette rules are not quite so strict for weddings that are modern or DIY, they still follow the lead that is set by nuptials that are formal. The wedding invitation wording should therefore include a number of key elements, such as: the host line, the request line and the action line, along with the happy couple’s names and the date, plus the location and reception lines.

To infuse your invite with your vibe, style and personalities, choose your words carefully, and present them in an elegant style on your luxury invites.

The Host Line

The first line of the wedding invitation is traditionally reserved for the name/s of the people who are hosting (paying for) the wedding – usually it’s the parents of the bride. Writing their names at the top of the invite acknowledges their generosity.

If you and your beloved have a more modern approach, and are contributing to the cost or funding the wedding yourselves, you’ll need to make an adjustment to the host line. It’s acceptable to opt for something simpler like, ‘Together with their families’ and to list the names of all parents.

If parents are divorced, add their names on separate lines. A parent who is deceased can be honoured by listing them as ‘the late (insert name)’ alongside a member of the couple’s family.

The Request Line

The request line is used to invite guests to attend your wedding.

If your wedding is formal, you’ll need to use language that reflects the grandeur of the special occasion. It’s therefore good etiquette to formally “request the honour of your presence…” when wording your church wedding invites to send to your VIP guests. If you’re tying the knot in a non-religious ceremony, it’s common to use “request the pleasure of your company” instead.

A casual modern wedding doesn’t require quite so much formality. It’s therefore perfectly acceptable to use language like: “We would love for you to join us on our special day…”

The Action Line

This line is where you inform your guests what you’re inviting them to.

When the bride’s parents are hosting, it’s traditional to add the wording “At the marriage of their daughter.”  “At the marriage of their children” is suitable for a jointly funded wedding.

If you’re hosting yourselves, you can use simple wording like: “As they tie the knot.”

The Essential Information

The formal names of the happy couple, the wedding date, and location and reception details are the most important elements to be featured on a personalised wedding invite.

The wedding invitation wording for different-sex couples typically features the bride’s legal name first, followed by the groom’s name. If the bride’s parents’ names are listed in the host line, the bride’s name doesn’t have to include her surname. The groom’s name however should be listed in full.

You have variable options for same-sex couples getting spliced. You can write the names in alphabetical order by last name, or in the order that looks best on the invitation card design.

First names only is acceptable, by etiquette rules, if your wedding vibe is laidback and casual.

The date and time of your wedding should be formally spelled out in full. If your ceremony is on October 14, 2023, at 3:30 p.m., the correct wording will be: “Saturday, the fourteenth of October, two thousand twenty-three, at half after three in the afternoon.”

When writing the ceremony venue details, list the information on individual lines, starting with the name of the venue, the location, and the county.

You can simply write “Reception to follow” if it’s at the same location as the nuptials. If the reception is at a different location, wedding etiquette recommends that you include a reception card with relevant details.

If you’re not serving a full meal, it’s polite to let your guests know in advance by adding wording like:  “Join us for cake, canapes and drinks, and plenty of merriment!”

The Dress Code

While the wedding’s dress code is usually optional, some couples choose to let their guests know what makes suitable attire. For a formal black tie affair, it’s crucial to inform your guests that they’ll be expected to dress up to the nines.

If your wedding has a laidback vibe, you may decide to have a specific theme for your big day. Asking your guests to adopt the appropriate dress code will ensure that they feel comfortable throughout the day and also enhances everyone’s enjoyment.

A dress code line should therefore also be listed, amongst the wedding invitation wording, on a line that follows the reception location.

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